MEDITATING, ACCEPTING, MANIFESTING— WHO’S IN?
by Andrea Bogart
Do you practicemeditating, accepting and manifesting? What kind of energy you are putting out into the universe? Are you attached to outcomes constantly? Questioning, worrying and shaking your crystal ball trying to predict situations before they happen? Does this clutter up your happiness?
When you get still, can you release your resistance with accepting things as they are and move into a more mindful place? Let’s start manifesting from this mindset.
These are important questions I ask myself, not just once but consistently and especially during challenging moments.
I have been on a bit of an unintentional hiatus from writing recently. Practicing acceptance was high on my list these past few months as I got derailed from my usual track. I had excuse myself while I was shooting a movie that wrapped the first week of June and from there rolled right into having tons of family and friends arrive in our hometown of Sonoma to celebrate our wedding which launched us to enjoying our baby girls first birthday! Yes you heard it… I am now a happily married woman to the most incredible man, Erik Almås and together, with great joy, we survived our first year of parenthood!
With an eager desire to get back into my groove, I jumped at the opportunity to join Deepak and Oprah for another 21 Day Meditation experience, “Energy of Attraction” that started July 23rd. I hope you’re loving it as much as I am if you’re doing it too. Boy has it been an energetic game changer for me lately.
Often the smallest shifts can make big differences and encourage us to graciously accept things as they are a little easier. Who loves a good reminder to check-in with yourself when you have a lot happening and you feel your attitude slipping into glass half empty mode? Take a deep breath and SMILE… we just created some awareness together.
Life is incredible and I am surrounded by love and support so it's frustrating to sense my negativity internally and then give it more weight by vocalizing to anyone who is forced to listen. Do you ever annoy yourself in this way? I’m confident I’m not alone here because we arehuman. The good news is our awareness can propel us into a place of transformation. By quieting our minds and settling into some stillness we can release what’s not serving us with clarity and nurture what is, again and again. Let’s do this.
TIPS FOR MEDITATION:
• Where do you go to get quiet, connect with yourself and breathe? It can be a yoga class for me or early morning as I wake up and sometimes as I wind down for bed. It’s anywhere I can pause for 10-20 minutes and use a mantra or phrase to repeat internally and meditate. Challenge yourself to create a consistent form of meditation that speaks to you.
• Try not to forcefully push the negative or limiting thoughts away but see them and say “hi there, I hear you” and as gently as a fluffy cloud passing by in the sky, release them. If using a visual of your choice helps, do it. I love putting them in a balloon that I release or feel a gentle breeze lift them off me and carry them away. Get creative and change it up.
• Honor yourself with compassion as distractions and rumblings in your mind most likely find their way back in. Consider the importance of observing your thoughts to be far more effective than emptying your mind out. Make sense? Continue to repeat the process of deeply breathing accompanied by your choice of mantra, visualization or simply focusing on your breathe with non-judgmental acceptance.
• Clarity will start to arrive no matter what form of meditation you create for yourself. The pausefrom your daily schedule is what will significantly affect your ability to connect to acceptance more gracefully and consistently. Present state of awareness is what we’re going for whether for you; that’s on a hike, in a gym or sitting somewhere quietly. Rejuvenating the mind is how we can let go of the overwhelming feelings and pressures that can get in our way of being calm on a regular basis.
• Pay attention and notice how this calm state influences your reactive mind and your responses to the situations that might ordinarily get you really flustered. We all want to be a happy as we can be right? So if there’s a way to use our minds to assist in our moment to moment well being, I ask why wouldn't we all want to do what it takes to slow down the chatter in the mind we are inundated with from the moment we wake up to the moment we fall asleep?
“The mind can go in a thousand directions, but on this beautiful path, I walk in peace. With each step, the wind blows. With each step, a flower blooms” —Thich That Hanh
May I inspire you to check out the various styles of mediation at The Secrets Of Yoga for a wonderful and brief breakdown of each to explore.
Resources I Love:
I will always be grateful for the Deepak and Oprah Free 21-Day Experiences they offer as it was the source that jump started my commitment several years ago and benefits my life greatly. I love the guided aspect and having an intention and mantra provided. I often re-listen to the opening talk for inspiration in teaching my yoga classes and at night to fall asleep peacefully. Going to the online library and choosing one for a family member or friend makes a great gift too! And it’s Deepak and Oprah, come-on:)
I’m a fan of Light Watkins who has a great book on Meditation titled, “Bliss More”, a TEDx talk and fun interview on Mindbodygreen’s podcast. He is such a delightful human.
Mindsail is an emotional well-being App that I was honored to do the VOICE for the moodboosts component which you can access prior to subscribing. Two of my wonderful yoga clients developed this self-help vault giving you unique insights and tools to make better choices and live a happier more fulfilling life. Is it strange to listen to my own voice to boost my mood and drop into a quick meditation sometimes… cause I do:)
I also have done an online course with Ziva Meditation as I deeply related to Emily Fletcher’s lifestyle which lead her to study and create ZivaMind. With mindfulness, meditation and manifesting being the structure, students get the tools to be at the top of their personal and professional game.
My yoga and meditation practices are incredible tools that have changed my life. They have looked a little different since I've become a new mom but I've not lost site of their importance or my commitment. I'm profoundly more gracious and accepting of all the things I don't get done and take time to reflect on all the things that I do, which is a freeing space to be in. The awareness you create with mindful exercises will expand your life whether you had that intention or not (but that intention is a good one). It's pretty great when it surprises you and suddenly you now know what to shift around to make them a priority for yourself. I trust they've been healing my soul and guiding me to a healthy lifestyle from the inside out for years now. It's an ever-evolving journey that thrills me as I jump on my mat over and over again and embrace the challenges of being able to sit quietly with myself. My passion for writing about it and sharing it with students as an instructor comes from what it's done for me. I will always encourage you to find the physical and mindful activities that make your spirit soar, that shake you up and make you feel alive. You will never be sorry for finding a way to incorporate them into your days regularly. Go get 'em!
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your patience with me and continuing to support The New Hollywood and Inspirational Addict . I look forward to writing and sharing so much and hope this was my jumpstart back to consistency. Your thoughts and comments are always welcome here.
Please note that not all experiences, beliefs and ideas are shared by each member of “The New Hollywood.” We are a group of shepherds, not sheep.
Kindness is Action Challenge
If we look at the history of human existence, as a gross generalization, we have fallen prey to the archaic beliefs that one must “survive,” or the old adage “every man (or woman) for themselves,” forgetting to look out at the world around us. We get so caught up in our own lives that we may not even see our fellow humans suffering or in need of a hand, or simply a warm smile.
How often do we see a person suffering from homelessness and just walk by without the slightest acknowledgement? Or feel sadness for them yet do nothing? How often do we sit idly by as another goes hungry? How often have you seen someone having a hard day and think to yourself, “I’m glad that’s not me,” yet do nothing. Have we lost our sense of empathy? Our sense of kindness? I don’t believe so. Rather, I think we have simply lost our belief that we are capable of making an impact, especially by way of small acts of kindness. How often has your day been turned around by a friendly “hello,” or a kind act? And it is that one bit of momentary kindness that creates a ripple effect of chance in ones day and ultimately ones life. There are those that have never felt the power of being and feeling cared for. You may be the person that gives that gift to someone for the first time in their life.
This is why TNH has put together our month long Kindness in Action Challenge to remind people of the importance of kindness, focusing outward, and lending a helping hand. For the month of September we are challenging you to join us in paying it forward and making a difference in this world, one small act of kindness at a time. Imagine if just 1000 people joined in, in doing one act of kindness per day, and those 1000 people inspired just 10 people each, thats 10,000 people! And those 10,000 then inspire 10 each, that’s 100,000 people! And the ripple effects of change will continue on, literally making this world a kinder place. So please join us this September and spread the word so you too can make a difference in someones life today, and be the change you would like to see in the world.
In order to participate please share on your social media account/s Instagram and Facebook, what kind act you performed with the hashtag #TNHKindnessInAction for all 30 days and you will be eligible to win a prize as a thank you for your kindness! It can be as simple as putting change in someones meter, or as impactful as feeding those that may be impoverished and or giving to those in need. You will be amazed at the endless ways you can create kindness in action. Let the kindness begin!! Follow us @thenewhollywoodofficial for ideas on how you can spread kindness and live by example.
“Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” Dalai Lama
“Be kind. For everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” Philo
“Do a little bit of good where you are. It is those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” Desmund Tutu
“The world is my country, all mankind is my brethren, and to do good is my religion.” Thomas Paine
“Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.” Henry James
“I’m convinced that probably everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. It is just one more reason to always try to be kind.” Yolanda Hadid
“Go out in the world and do well. But more importantly, go out in the world and do good.” Minor Meyers Jr
“If we don’t plant the right things, we reap the wrong things. It goes without saying. And you don’t have to be, you know, a biochemist or have an IQ of 150. Just common sense tells you to be kind, ninny, fool. Be kind.” Maya Angelou
Get My Body Back Challenge (6th Annual) - An Invitation by "The New Hollywood"
by Brianna Brown and Pina De Rosa
The New Hollywood has an invitation for you:
Established in 2013 TNH Get My Body Back Challenge was created to help you accomplish your health and wellness goals by putting your money where your goals are! When you achieve your goal, your charity of choice wins!
This program was designed for both men and women, in the spirit of supporting you in optimizing and achieving a health and/or fitness goal that is important to you. We would be happy to welcome you to the 6th Annual TNH Get My Body Back Challenge!
We are excited to share this journey with you and invite you to share TNH Get My Body Back Challenge with your friends and family. Since this is an online format we have folks participating from all around the world.
TNH's Get My Body Back allows you to set your mind/body/spirit goals where not just your word is on the line, but your $$$!!! Winners will have their registration fee donated to their charity of choice!
Brianna Brown says: "Achieve your wellness goals, benefit a cause you love and join a community of inspiring folks wanting to Rise Higher, Shine Bright & Give Back!". As Pina De Rosa puts it: "You can focus on whatever would allow you to finish your 2018 strong."
Registration is open here now!
Challenge starts on Wednesday, September 12th.
and is completed on Monday, December 10th, 2018.
Our expert health and wellness volunteers are there to support you with inspiration and guidance so you reach your wellness goals! This is a self-directed program that utilizes our private online Get My Body Back Facebook page (GMBB6). You will get out of it what you put into it and can request as much or little support as you need!
What types of health goals?
While weight management might be the goal for some of the participants, the ‘Get My Body Back’ elective is so much more than that. Because "body" is about health, not just weight.
If you are committed to taking on your health & fitness to *your* next level between now and the end of the year, a GMBB6 goal could be as simple as drinking more water, meditating with daily consistency, cutting out sugar, making the time to stretch every morning, writing 20 minutes per day, fitting in working out x times/week even in a busy life... Our GMBB6 will provide the weekly support to powerfully complete 2018! *And your favorite charity will benefit when you succeed!
While you will absolutely get out of this what you put in, this does not need to be time consuming because if you have access to a computer you can participate in this elective from anywhere in the world! The added bonus is a series of contributing experts sharing their expertise daily in the private Facebook group.
Details and RSVP here before 9/13:
Just like in the Olympics, we either have reasons or we have results. TNH's Get My Body Back Challenge is about the results! Imagine wrapping up the year having accomplished your wellness goal and being able to start 2019 powerfully! Imagine all you can create by changing that one habit that has been holding you back and knowing that your accomplishment also helped the cause closest to your heart! Now is a great time to achieve your goals and give back! Click here to join us!
To your health and wellness!
Brianna Brown and Pina De Rosa
"The New Hollywood" www.TheNewHollywood.org #GMBB6
*Please note that not all experiences, beliefs and ideas are shared by each member of “The New Hollywood.” We are a group of shepherds, not sheep.
10 REASONS TO PRACTICE YOGA
By Andrea Bogart
Why practice yoga? I have an abundance of reasons with a pot of gold at the end but let's just ease into this.
Have you felt the benefits of this practice yet? It's no surprise to me that a Forbes article indicated in a 2016 study that the amount of people practicing yoga in the U.S. nearly doubled from 2012. Bringing it to 37 million, which is estimating that one out of ten people are practicing now. Yoga has been so impactful in my life that it's a bit of a mouth full to describe just how so. Several of my blogs have been inspired by this journey and my first post was about how consistently practicing lead me to becoming a certified instructor. I care deeply about this practice and all of it's tremendous benefits. It's a non negotiable for me... yoga will be in my life for as long as I live. Here's my top ten reasons why.
Yoga is the union of the mind, body and spirit. This ability to connect to a deeper sense of self arrives as you drop into your breath, begin to link it with movements and quiet the mind. The hope is that the discoveries you find as you explore the eight limbs of yoga will cultivate a joyful, non judgmental awareness in which you can use as a vehicle for transformation. This connection isn't only enriching for the self but in all your relationships if you want it to be. It's a journey inward that guides you to connect with the present moment with compassion and acceptance.
There is loads of research that supports yoga reducing stress and anxiety in conjunction with elevating your mood and over-all sense of well-being. When we stretch the body, create a fluidity with our breath and movements we release stored toxins and calm the mind quite beautifully. Stress wears differently on all of us so my suggestion is to simply see for yourself. As you begin to practice consistently you will start to see the benefits show up in your daily life. A heaviness you may have often felt before becomes lighter. As relaxation is practiced, a calm nervous system encourages more balance in dealing with life's upsets and disappointments as you navigate toward joy and healing more readily.
EASE JOINT PAIN
You gotta love when Doctors and Chiropractors are prescribing yoga for pain, which I'm delightfully hearing more and more. I'm a prime example with having had severe knee pain from being a former dancer/ gymnast and using yoga as rehab instead of surgery. It was pretty miraculous for me. This is not the case for everyone but worth a shot in my book. Combined with anti-inflammatory foods you may save yourself in a multitude of ways; Ie., medical bills, painful procedures with recovery times, being on prescription drugs. Increasing flexibility and strengthening muscles that support our joints are key components when practicing various styles of yoga.
Many of the yoga postures are strengthening poses that tone your entire body. I've had some incredible athletes try yoga for the first time with me and express that it was the hardest thing they ever did. Don't let that scare you... there's a practice for everyone. It's a full body work out physically and spiritually. Power Yoga, Vinyasa Flow and Ashtanga are three styles I'd recommend for someone wanting to focus on gaining muscle strength. Remember, strength comes in many forms as well.. it's not just about the tight core, killer triceps and buns of steel. As your awareness starts to inspire better life choices, it would be fair to say you've definitely strengthened your mind as well.
There are many styles of yoga with a variety of level's and intensity's and exploring them will help you land in a practice that's right for you. I was in the gym for years pounding the treadmill, using weight machines and not particularly enjoying myself at all. I was introduced to yoga in my late twenties switching gears, using it as my consistent form of exercise. I explored styles and levels and fell in love, quickly becoming addicted to the physical and mental challenges and happiness shift I was experiencing. At large, it seems everyone wants to maximize their time and efforts with quick results. I think of yoga as great work out for everything. With the right combination of style, instructor, level and commitment the benefits go far beyond the time spent on your mat and my top ten reasons.
your ability to relax, restore and revive. Day to day activities often leave us restless with mind-chatter and a yearning for a way minimize that. Finding balance and an understanding of your mind, body, spirit connection will invite more calm into your life. With a constant the need and/ or expectations to respond to things, this is one perk of the practice that can be detrimental to communicating positively and effectively. Savasana can be an out-of-body, calming experience... make sure you never miss out on that.
If I had a dollar for everyone who said "I can't do yoga, I'm not flexible", I'd be treating us all to fancy vacations regularly. My understanding and empathy with this is that, if you feel a lot of tightness or stiff areas in the body, yes postures will feel more challenging in the beginning. Anyone who has practiced at least three times with-in their first week I believe would tell you they felt better in some tight area of their body. I was always decently flexible due to my dance training but I've never felt flexibility combined with strength the way I do now from yoga. I've worked with several clients and watched their progress during a few short months and over the course of several years. There's no need to become gumby and some would advise that being overly flexible isn't smart for the long hall. However, I will cheer you on to consistently and mindfully practice asanas and stretch as it will lead to an increased range of motion and life long vitality.
There is a lot of life we live just traveling through on auto pilot. The foundations of yoga teach us how to create more awareness and to be present. Hitting your mat regularly is likely to reveal more that you would expect and shift your ordinary responses into a place of thoughtful perspective and curiosity. I learned what a competitive perfectionist I was even in my yoga practice and how humbling it's been to let go of that. It's sort of like holding up a mirror to yourself and learning how to compassionately embrace every morsel of what you see and grow from it. Setting intentions, feeling gratitude, exploring the senses and taking in whatever arrives creates mindfulness that is transformative.
Often reasons we don't sleep well are due to the worries, anxieties and constant information coming at us that is overstimulating. Exhaling is a release in the nervous system and postures relieve tension in the body thus often acting as a natural sleep remedy. Different styles of yoga, like Restorative or Hatha are slower paced and support better sleep than say an energizing power flow or hot yoga. If you suffer from insomnia you'd want to pay more attention to that and perhaps the time of day you practice. An evening gentle practice just might be the recipe for you to get your proper zzz's.
BRILLIANT FOR THE MIND
It makes sense that yoga can sharpen the mind. With so much emphasis on the nine reasons above how could it not? Strengthening the immune system, central nervous system and deepening your focus are all tangible, physical health benefits. Neuroscience studies are reporting that our happy chemicals like serotonin and dopamine levels are increased in our logical and emotional brain when we practice sustained discipline in our mind/body (like hatha or vinyasa yoga). Yay for more feelings of relaxation and contentment. We all need more of that right?
I'm a hopeful Inspirational Addict here and wishfully thinking, one of these reasons may be enough for you to give yoga a try or lock down that commitment to consistently practice. For the first time, I am discovering how difficult it can be to carve out space for self-care since having a baby so I get that it may take some strategy. Lucky for us with 37 million practicing we have several outlets to try to do it. Just like the various styles, there is something for everyone that could be your cup of tea; be it physically making a class, having a private instructor come to your home or lead you on-line, find an event near you or going on an amazing retreat. I'm always here for you guys with questions or comments! Big hugs and thanks for popping by.
Travel like a New Hollywood Woman
by Jamie Latta
Ahhh. It’s summertime; That easy-breezy time of year that brings longer, lazier days. Nights are filled with fireflies and al fresco dinners and weekends disappear on a hammock with a good book. By far, my favorite thing about summer is that it’s the time of year to give in to my inner nomad and let go. I spend the first half of the year, digging in, planting roots and building a foundation for a life I love. Summertime is my season to stop, climb to the top of my tree, spread my wings and fly away.
There’s a reason travel always makes my list of resolutions. At TNH, it’s a popular and important goal for many. Personally, my goals is to leave the country twice in 2018. Here’s why: travel feeds my soul, fuels my creativity, makes my world bigger and my problems seem smaller. It breeds tolerance and an open mind. Without these qualities, my creativity is stifled. Without creativity, I cease to work. For me, this goal is just as important as any career goal.
Because I am a typical Type A personality, I’m efficient, organized and competitive. I’m a get it donekinda gal. If you’re following The New Hollywood (and you’re reading this, so you are), you understand we love goals. Once I make it to my destination, the goal is achieved and life becomes all about intentions. These travel intentions become mantras and allow me to let go and let it flow. They are important mantras in life, but I find them especially useful while travelling.
literally designed my garden to replicate this experience. Had that museum been open, I would never have known how to create space that makes me feel provincial all year long. I meditate in my garden. I entertain in my garden. I lie in a hammock and read. That museum being closed for renovations changed my life.
Presence over Hustle
It’s not about the Instagram photo or putting a check mark next to a destination. You can be somewhere without really having experienced somewhere. Become a flaneurand a explore the art of passionate wandering. It’s one of the great joys of traveling. It’s about experiencing a place, its people and its history. I like to pick neighborhoods that have historically been magnets for writers, artists, activists and musicians. A place has energy. I want to draw from energy that has inspired great works of art and movements of change.The last couple of European trips I have taken, I’ve rented amazing Air B&Bs in Trastevere, Rome and Montmartre, Paris. I set aside days to walk the streets, talk with locals and go where no guidebook or blog is going to send you. It’s days that I practice presence over hustle when the locals sent us to the pasta making legends at Pasta Di Mani and gave me so much food I had to run around a piazza to make room for more. Or getting a little lost with my love in Montmartre only to get a private outdoor concert from some indie band who set up shop in an empty lot. Their music filled the Parisian air while our afternoon bottle of Bordeaux wore off. The point is, you don’t get to have this experience without wandering about (flaneuring) and being open to what the day brings. You have to bump into these moments that will become treasured memories.
Come Home and Shine Brighter
When I return, inspiration gained through travel nourishes my roots. For me, travel is part of the natural cycle of life. It’s fuel for creativity. I fill up on different cultures, art, traditions, architecture, music and food. When I come home, I pour that inspiration into the last push of my year. It spills into my work and I let it fall like leaves from my own tree of life. Those leaves fall to ground, nourish my roots and I repeat the next year stronger, wiser and having expanded my world in all directions.
Please note that not all experiences, beliefs and ideas are shared by each member of “The New Hollywood.
Living Fuller Lives in the Present Starts with Looking at the End
By Shelley Whizin
I know that death and dying may not be the hottest topic of cocktail conversation, but I have also found that because we live in a death-phobic society, we stay away from the subject with a ten-foot pole. Many people walk around with a terrifying hidden fear of death that is paralyzing, affecting their lives here and now. And, when someone they love is dying, they don't know what to do, what to say or how to behave, because there is such anxiety around the "D" word. There's got to be a way to find some peace and feel a sense of well-being, but how?
In looking at life and living through the lens of death and dying, we realize just how temporary and precious our time is on this earth. By diving in and grappling with the subject, we end up living fuller lives in the present, because we become more conscious of the quality of life we are living, focusing on what's really important, engaging with passion. "What" we do in life, professionally or personally doesn't really matter. What matters is howwe do what we do. Do we bring a sense of honor, dignity and regard into our life experiences, infused with love, compassion, genuine interest, and kindness? And if we don't, why not?
We all have a parent, a sibling, a friend, a pet, a family member, or someone we love and care for deeply, who has died or will die one day. We can't help but grieve and mourn, because we love them, and the ability to love is a gift that we wouldn't trade for anything in the world. Love is our magic elixir that heals, that touches our hearts, that co-creates, that helps us to navigate through our human experience with a sense of grace. And, yes, because we love, we also feel our hearts break when we lose someone. That too is part of the cycle of life. All of these experiences deepen the quality of living, enriching our human-spiritual understanding.
As a life coach, death midwife and hospice trainer, I have witnessed people shift their views, just in being able to talk about death and dying in a safe and friendly environment. Expressing helps to soothe the way, allowing us to approach the cycle of life and death a little easier, enabling us to be better equipped and prepared to handle life and death experiences in a way that is healing, not horrible. When we are able to hold the space for a sacred dying experience, we are bringing with us the same sense of reverence, as we do when a baby is born.
For those of you who are interested in healing and shifting your perspective of death and dying and receive practical tools to help you navigate through this journey of life and death, Shelley is facilitating The Twilight Brigade, 3-day, 20-hour Certification Training, June 29th - July 1st.* It's a 20-hr certification program that will stay with you forever.
The Twilight Brigade was created in 1997 by Dannion Brinkley, author of Saved by the Light, to teach people how to be with veterans who are dying, to understand what it truly means to be present, so that no vet (or anyone) ever die alone. It has become one of the country's most impactful trainings of its kind.
You will learn more about your own notions of death and dying and will be better prepared to handle it in your own live, int he lives of those you love, in the lives of our veterans, and int eh lives of others who need a friendly hand. Don't be surprised if the trepidations you have when you walk in are alleviated when you walk out.
It will be held at the West Los Angeles Veteran's Administration. Register at: www.thetwilightbrigade.org. Shelley will hold the space for you to have a life-changing experience.
Limited spaces. To register go to www.thetwilightbrigade.com or contact 818-414-5111 firstname.lastname@example.org. If you want to read some articles that may help you traverse your personal journey, go to www.lovelifeandbeyond.com
"It’s your life. Enjoy the journey! And, remember to bring love into everything you do." Shelley Whizin is the Founder of the Soul Diving Institute and Lovelifeandbeyond.com
"The Twilight Brigade training is forever embedded in my being. The training healed my "Soul,"
and I thank you for allowing me to bring my brokenness for mending through the various exercises and the ultimate power of love. Thank you! I tell everyone I come in contact with that are in my similar condition or just broken about your powerful healing workshop/training. I hope they are open to an incredible healing that is enduring and special. Thank you for loving me and introducing me to lovers of healing. I love you and pray for your continual call to heal. Forever grateful!"
-Porchia J, Graduate of The Twilight Brigade Training.
Please note that not all experiences, beliefs and ideas are shared by each member of “The New Hollywood.
Manifest Your Mission: It’s Never Too Late
By Beth Navarro
To anyone who knows me it’s no secret I like to write things down. I’ve been a list maker since I could catalogue my Barbie’s wardrobe. The power of writing down my goals became clear to me when I was 12 and created “The Puppy Project” making a case to my parents that I needed a dog. It worked! I even began teaching classes on journaling when I explored how healing writing about your life can be.
Something happens when you write down what you want out of life. It becomes a bit more real. When you write down steps to how you get there, all of a sudden it’s doesn’t feel as far out of reach. When you make yourself accountable the manifesting, magic happens.
Brianna Brown and I created the first version of Manifesting Your Mission that we used within the organization years ago. I wanted to give the members something concrete to use to discover their goals for the year, create a plan to accomplish these goals and track their progress through the year. One of the truly amazing things about The New Hollywood is watching everyone grow and that was a big reason why it was important to me to create this book. Brianna and I were so excited to create a tool to help in this process. After years of seeing what worked and what didn’t, Brianna and I refined the guidebook and this year we made it available to the public!
Three tips I’ve learned as I’ve used this book:
Designed Manipulation: Another way to look at social media addiction from a “mathematical” POV
by Dave Schoenfeld
It’s no longer a surprise that modern video games and social media manipulate the masses for profit. It’s not wrong to manipulate someone specifically, but ideally you know how and when it’s happening. Here are a few ways to combat these urges to validate through likes. The more you know, the less likely you’ll get as hooked.
Free-to-play video games live and die by building strong “compulsion loops”. Get players addicted to doing the same thing over and over rewarding them with small prizes, then monetize that by encouraging them to go for higher risks and rewards with real money. Most common addiction technique is very similar to gambling. The game would never look like it’s about gambling, they just use the same addiction hooks: build expectation of win/loses then toss in random big wins and few big loses. Social media is actually doing the same but it’s often done more covertly.
How does social media systematically manipulate me? I see my feed and don’t feel the effect. Well a simple example is your timeline is not chronological based on your friends posts. Simple example: If Facebook wants you to get more active they can algorithmically boost a post to your friends so you get lots of “likes” and comments, even emailing alerts. Wow, people are interested in what I have to say! Feels great! That algorithm boost, drops off quickly as soon as you’re back to posting consistently b/c they know they have you in their loop. Then no one, by comparison, seems to like your posts! Hmm, where are all those friends? It’s not you, it’s the algorithm.
Instagram, why didn’t my post do well? If we know the top posts on a timeline get seen by 100% of the people who open the app, a certain way down 60% seen, further down 30% and so on. Then where Instagram chooses to put your post on your friends timelines is controllable. If it’s matches free-to-play video games, then the algorithm should be designed to have your “like” count fluctuate. That means to get you addicted you will get a standard of say 100 likes, with random deviations to trigger emotional responses. One day you get 60, another day 350! That’s all by design by simply by moving your post higher or lower down your followers timeline. And that’s just the obvious first pass at an algorithm! Needless to say with psychologist and countless research dollars does a lot more.
Twitter copy’s this but in their own way with “In case you missed it” and controlling notifications.
None of this is new. Casinos figured this out a long time ago, hence the popularity of slot machines. Difference is we know a lot more about how slot machines work, and our interaction with them is transparent.
What can be done about this? Awareness is the key. We can’t avoid social media all together, but we can try to remind ourselves that there is a system in place designed to work with our emotions. For me, when I feel a compulsion to look at my favorite social media, and a voice in the back of my head asks, “Why did I just look?” I know the compulsion is growing into addiction. Then I try to take a break from social media for a few days to help pull the balance back into my hands. Another way to keep yourself aware is, when you post something valuable and get little to no response, remember the algorithm is always at play. It may not be you. So don’t let it get you down. You are amazing and letting the algorithm validate you or invalidate you is dangerous for your emotional wellbeing. We can only be more mindful when “mindlessly” scrolling through our feeds.
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David Schoneveld is on social media, but no need to follow him! He is a member of The New Hollywood Men’s Branch and enjoys travel, good food, and is a Virtual Reality Artist and Games designer.
Please note that not all experiences, beliefs and ideas are shared by each member of “The New Hollywood
Allowing Ourselves To Receive
by Andrea Bogart
What are we asking for and what are we receiving? I encourage us to explore this immediately so we can proceed in allowing the Universe to support us. Everything in our lives is in flow.
As I lay on my back with acupuncture needles in various parts of my body... I'm drifting into a meditation with a mantra, "heal my mind, heal my body." The gentle voice of my acupuncturist says a few beautiful words, receive being among them. I'm reminded to ask for what I need and allow space to actually receive. It stirred up some thoughts for me. In my surprising challenges with breast-feeding and production that evolved after months of what was seamless, I had to take a beat. Perhaps I was so focused on needing to provide a solid milk supply for our baby-girl... I was forgetting the allowance of receiving what I needed in order to do so. It makes sense now. With a pretty simple shift in perspective my human ah-ha alarm is saying, "Andrea you know how to practice this."
I'm a believer in prayer, yoga, mediations, gratitude journals... all of which give me an opportunity to check-in, create joy and quiet the mind. However, receiving can become quite passive unintentionally as it's an action that happens all day long with e-mails, messages, phone-calls and various interactions. So how do we absorb the essence of receiving in a beneficial way? We have to pay attention and be present to do this. Often at the end of my yoga sessions as I guide students into savasana I say, "allow yourself to surrender and receive the benefits of your practice." The hope is that we are so connected to the present moment that letting go washes over us in a wave of compassion worth soaking up.
QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF
Are you getting into this with me now? The honest answers to those questions will guide you to clarity. If you feel some negativity flooding your immediate responses... seek gratitude, seek more gratitude and seek gratitude again, I promise it shifts things. Do that for yourself, because you CAN.
We have to believe in the things we ask for. We have to believe in what we are deserving of and kick fear to the curb as it's often the culprit of pushing us off track. I distinctly remember a time in my life where fear was winning at every turn. I was convincing myself of so many things that were not my truths because I was shaking in my boots that my guiding lights would never grant me the things I most desired. I stopped asking and was putting a lot of bulls##t out there and guess what came back? A lot more bulls##t. I wasn't allowing any space for receiving because I was too busy letting my hopes get highjacked. I'm super happy to say with some hard work and mindful commitments to self-love, I was able to wade back out of that mess, but I do remember that pitiful time well. From that space evolved an incredible time of growth & transformation.
“There is nothing to find, only to realize. There is nothing to become, only to be. There
is nothing to fear, only to love.” — Marianne Williamson
If this is an area you could use support just know I am by your side in making the worthy effort to receive more abundantly. Find the ways in which you connect to this effort best and make time for it. Remember everything in life is in flow... keep receiving as a part of your necessary flow. Thank you for popping by, I'm such a lover of communication so always feel welcome to share a story of your own or comment here.
Please note that not all experiences, beliefs and ideas are shared by each member of “The New Hollywood
HOW TO GIVE THE GIFT OF BEING PRESENT
by Andrea Bogart
Have you ever wondered how to be more present? We hear it all the time, we potentially think we are and yet so easily our minds wander, our attention bounces to the past or future and suddenly we're missing out on what's happening right in front of us; here and now.
Spring is in full swing and I'm thinking about how to give myself the gift of being more present in all that I do... are you ready to join me? I know we will benefit from this awareness and I can assure you the people and situations you interact with will appreciate it too. With a million ways to be distracted today... being present is a GIFT to rapture in.
There are so many examples throughout the day where I am deeply connected to the present moment and others where auto pilot is taking me through the motions and I'm not present at all. Does this sound like you too? Of course this is natural but my gosh, doesn't it feel good to catch yourself and breathe into that realization and just be in the moment? It's a practice. Like with most things, if we take the time to practice this, we get good and this particularly should feel simple rather than like a task. We will always have distractions, interruptions and a multitude of things that can cause worry but if we truly work on being present we can alleviate the external emotions often attached to these deterrents.
Check-in with your moment to moment awareness in some of these areas:
“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness
embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers”
— Thich Nhat Hanh
MY KEY HELPERS
My favorite part about all this is that it is actually pretty basic when you think about being present. It doesn't mean it doesn't come without it's challenges... but I believe it's the world in which we live with an unbelievable amount of stimulation that has altered are senses of how important it is to just BE. I heard on a Tim Ferriss' podcast recently, "remember we are human BEINGS not human DOINGS," I love that. Find gratitude in everything that you do, appreciate the smallest of tasks, seek joy moment to moment and feel how amazing anything can be. Remember it's a practice. Each step is a step with grace and wonderment.