Living Fuller Lives in the Present Starts with Looking at the End
By Shelley Whizin
I know that death and dying may not be the hottest topic of cocktail conversation, but I have also found that because we live in a death-phobic society, we stay away from the subject with a ten-foot pole. Many people walk around with a terrifying hidden fear of death that is paralyzing, affecting their lives here and now. And, when someone they love is dying, they don't know what to do, what to say or how to behave, because there is such anxiety around the "D" word. There's got to be a way to find some peace and feel a sense of well-being, but how?
In looking at life and living through the lens of death and dying, we realize just how temporary and precious our time is on this earth. By diving in and grappling with the subject, we end up living fuller lives in the present, because we become more conscious of the quality of life we are living, focusing on what's really important, engaging with passion. "What" we do in life, professionally or personally doesn't really matter. What matters is howwe do what we do. Do we bring a sense of honor, dignity and regard into our life experiences, infused with love, compassion, genuine interest, and kindness? And if we don't, why not?
We all have a parent, a sibling, a friend, a pet, a family member, or someone we love and care for deeply, who has died or will die one day. We can't help but grieve and mourn, because we love them, and the ability to love is a gift that we wouldn't trade for anything in the world. Love is our magic elixir that heals, that touches our hearts, that co-creates, that helps us to navigate through our human experience with a sense of grace. And, yes, because we love, we also feel our hearts break when we lose someone. That too is part of the cycle of life. All of these experiences deepen the quality of living, enriching our human-spiritual understanding.
As a life coach, death midwife and hospice trainer, I have witnessed people shift their views, just in being able to talk about death and dying in a safe and friendly environment. Expressing helps to soothe the way, allowing us to approach the cycle of life and death a little easier, enabling us to be better equipped and prepared to handle life and death experiences in a way that is healing, not horrible. When we are able to hold the space for a sacred dying experience, we are bringing with us the same sense of reverence, as we do when a baby is born.
For those of you who are interested in healing and shifting your perspective of death and dying and receive practical tools to help you navigate through this journey of life and death, Shelley is facilitating The Twilight Brigade, 3-day, 20-hour Certification Training, June 29th - July 1st.* It's a 20-hr certification program that will stay with you forever.
The Twilight Brigade was created in 1997 by Dannion Brinkley, author of Saved by the Light, to teach people how to be with veterans who are dying, to understand what it truly means to be present, so that no vet (or anyone) ever die alone. It has become one of the country's most impactful trainings of its kind.
You will learn more about your own notions of death and dying and will be better prepared to handle it in your own live, int he lives of those you love, in the lives of our veterans, and int eh lives of others who need a friendly hand. Don't be surprised if the trepidations you have when you walk in are alleviated when you walk out.
It will be held at the West Los Angeles Veteran's Administration. Register at: www.thetwilightbrigade.org. Shelley will hold the space for you to have a life-changing experience.
Limited spaces. To register go to www.thetwilightbrigade.com or contact 818-414-5111 firstname.lastname@example.org. If you want to read some articles that may help you traverse your personal journey, go to www.lovelifeandbeyond.com
"It’s your life. Enjoy the journey! And, remember to bring love into everything you do." Shelley Whizin is the Founder of the Soul Diving Institute and Lovelifeandbeyond.com
"The Twilight Brigade training is forever embedded in my being. The training healed my "Soul,"
and I thank you for allowing me to bring my brokenness for mending through the various exercises and the ultimate power of love. Thank you! I tell everyone I come in contact with that are in my similar condition or just broken about your powerful healing workshop/training. I hope they are open to an incredible healing that is enduring and special. Thank you for loving me and introducing me to lovers of healing. I love you and pray for your continual call to heal. Forever grateful!"
-Porchia J, Graduate of The Twilight Brigade Training.
Please note that not all experiences, beliefs and ideas are shared by each member of “The New Hollywood.