To Goal or Not To Goal — What is the Question?
By Alexis Carra & Pina De Rosa
It’s the New Year and there’s that buzz to set goals, dream big, and start fresh! I tend like look back at what I didn’t accomplish last year, and re-format it for this year’s goals. I love the feeling of possibility in the air and the confidence I have. It’s the giant re-set that our Gregorian calendar gives us to re-member and declare what we really want. And then there’s the other side of it—the one that dreads making goals because there were so many that perhaps didn’t happen last year; or the fear of asking the question: what is it that I really want? Do I even know what I want?
Goal-setting can be daunting and exciting all at the same time. We here at TNH love setting goals—after all we are philanthropic goal group. This year the part of goal setting I am focusing is not so much the end result, the actual goal itself, but rather on the mindset that reaching for that goal creates. “Set a goal so big that you can’t achieve, until you grow into the person who can.”
This is for you if you love goalsetting, but you may have been overwhelmed by it at some point... it’s also for you if you have ever "resisted" the idea/process of goalsetting because it was too much pressure... or perhaps you totally excel at it and want a super-new way that you have never heard of before (unless you have coached with Pina before) that will guarantee to make it way easier (and fun!!) too.
It’s been said that a goal is a dream with a deadline, and we all know goal setting is key to reaching an outcome. You have to know if the plane is bound for Fiji, or Istanbul or Sydney before you take off – it’ll be a completely different flight path… Most definitely, this is for you if you are someone who’s ever had 100 things on your plate, and you accomplished 98 of them, but only focus on the remaining 2. If that’s you, then you definitely want to start by creating the space of forgiveness for the things that did not go to plan. Then proceed with this simple one-two punch:
a) the “Three Daily Habits”, coupled with
b) the “Top 100 Method” is the simplest way to set goals that stick (minus the yuck of the overwhelm).
a) The “Three Daily Habits”, aka the “SKF-factor”, was introduced in the previous blog, and you can review it here.
b) The “Top 100 Method” is a complete new element to goals setting, designed to stretch who you are being in the process; no it’s not New Year’s Resolutions… we all know how long those last, and that 92% of people do not keep theirs! This is a way to set goals that will truly make a marked difference in both your year, as well as your overall quality of your life.
Imagine a spring-loaded plate-dispenser. The top 10-15 plates are visible, and they are traditional white plates. The remaining plates are below, and we easily assume that those plates are also traditional white plates. But what if they aren’t? What if there was a purple plate down there? Or a green or orange one?
once you have reached 100, you can review them and highlight your main 20/25 goals for the year. THESE are the ones that, when you truly focus on accomplishing them, your 2015 will be markedly different! What does this have to do with goal setting?
When writing down your goals, you’ll want to get past the surface, and get past the same traditional “surface goals” that sound like ‘more money’, ‘lose weight’, etc. Set aside 30-40 minutes so you can do this all in one sitting, the way it is designed:
Write out your top 100 goals for this year. Yes, you read that right, 100, that way you push yourself beyond the 10-15 visible plates/predictable goals. Be sure to include your personal, professional, tangible and intangible goals. Then you simply get to focus on completing 1 or 2 each month, using the “Three Daily Habits”.
At the end of the day, year, week, or moment, I want to feel as though I’ve given it my all. I know that when I leave it all on the table, and focus entirely, giving it my all, then the result-- in a way--doesn’t matter as much. I am much kinder to myself if I don't reach the exact goal because I know I did everything I could to achieve it no matter what! Focusing on who I can be, and what I can do to achieve my goals becomes more important than the goal itself. I know the results will come and they could be even bigger than I had imagined!